The Narcissist Preys On People Using Social Media And Other Online Sites
Updated: Nov 4, 2020
It must be real easy to sit behind a computer screen and prey on unsuspecting victims. Anywhere that there is an open forum, you will find these predators lurking for their next prey. They sit back and observe the behavior of others and pick out their targets who they know they can manipulate. Always beware of your surroundings and listen to your intuition because it will give you warning signs, you will start seeing red flags and then run like hell and don't look back.
I was preyed on by another online seller from Bonanzle which is now called Bonanza.. years ago. I end up with two years of abuse, gaslighting, the silent treatment, narcissistic rage, psychological abuse and triangulation because I didn't follow my intuition and ignored those red flags. She was aggressive in trying to be my friend which was a really big red flag that had me ask some friends what they thought about it.. but somehow I ignored the red flags and became her friend anyway. Who would have thought that my life would have taken such a drastic change from being abused by such person.
Gaslighting is an insidious abuse that causes extreme damage over time..
Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes, including low self-esteem. Using denial, misdirection, contradiction, and misinformation, gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's beliefs. Instances can range from the denial by an abuser that previous abusive incidents occurred, to belittling the victim's emotions and feelings, to the staging of bizarre events by the abuser with the intention of disorienting the victim.
So the two years of hell had begone with this narcissist.. the mind games and all that comes with it. She somehow latched on to a bunch of us so that she could be with people in my friends circle.. She was trying to isolate me while going behind my back to my friends and trying to make them think something was wrong with me, that I was crazy. She was deliberately trying to destroy my friendships behind my back. The good thing is at the end of all of it, my friends saw her for who she really was. I had one friend that I kept informed of all the weird things that she was doing to me and her weird behavior.. because it was a complete mind fuck and I couldn't understand what was happening to me.
Over time I was being broken down, lost my self esteem, started questioning my own sanity, start acting e-rational, I felt like I almost lost my soul, had a black cloud over me and was in a very dark place by the time I ended the friendship by NO CONTACT!